Inclusion and Harassment at BED


Treat everyone with courtesy and respect, in words and actions, regardless of their race, ethnicity, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, religion, physical appearance, body size, age, or identity/label/kink.

Ask for people’s pronouns and use gender-neutral pronouns, such as they/them, when applicable or you are unsure about pronouns. Do not assume that how they appear to present or ‘look’ to you reflects the pronouns they use. This can make all the difference in making people, of all gender identities, feel accepted and welcome.

We believe that every individual has something valuable to contribute and gain and we intend to foster and uphold a space where everyone feels welcome to do so. If you marginalize and devalue entire groups of people based on any of the qualities listed above, you aren’t a good fit for our event and you should find somewhere else to go.


Harassment is defined as “aggressive pressure and intimidation.”

The following are some examples, though not an exhaustive list, of what might make someone feel harassed: bigoted, biased, -ism remarks/insults; sexually suggestive comments and invitations and remarks about their body without appropriate familiarity with that person; ignoring people’s stated pronouns; asserting yourself into someone’s personal space bubble; touching without permission—things and people; following people around; cornering people to force an interaction; repetitively asking people to play; continuing to interact with people if they seem uncomfortable in the interaction.

Cues someone may not be into or comfortable with the interaction: leaning away, moving slowly away, continuously looking around the room, and giving very little verbal indication they are engaged in the interaction. If you are unsure about an interaction, end it but give them an invitation to find you later if they’d like to chat more/play.

If you have extended an invitation to play and they have declined, do not ask them again for the duration of that event. They know you are interested. If they become interested they can seek you out and ask.

Harassment, bullying, deliberately othering, discriminatory, and any –ism based behaviors, words, or attitudes will not be tolerated.